Suffering from Painful Sex Does Not Mean Intimacy is Dead

I know this topic is a little scary and unnerving, but let’s face it; painful sex has sadly become more common for the female population. Or, has it always been a problem and physicians are just now beginning to recognize this as a serious problem, urging more women to open up?

According to an article from The Good Men Project, researchers have found that 16 to 20 percent of women will experience sexual pain in their life. Although you may feel the desire to have sexual intercourse, the thought of piercing pain has you bottling up the urge. If the thought of penetration has you running to the bathroom, it’s time to do something about it and we’re here to help.

Simply put, painful sex is confusing and just not fair. Genital pain can be contributed to a number of conditions, and the onset of symptoms can appear at any time. Common activities such as exercising or sitting can become extremely painful. Some of these conditions that result from genital pain, include gastrointestinal or urological problems, vestibulodynia (vulvar pain) and clitorodynia (clitoral pain). What’s even scarier about sexual pain is that sometimes it can come from nowhere; developing “without a readily identifiable trigger.”

Authors of the new book Healing Painful Sex, Deborah Coady, MD and Nancy Fish, have taken a close look at this problem and assure suffering women that they shouldn’t feel ashamed, and that the pain is not “all in your head.”

While the medical field would like to classify this type of pain, during what is supposed to be a pleasurable experience, is the result of emotional and psychological issues. Coady and Fish don’t agree, concluding that “emotional and psychological problems are consequences of the pain.”

The book’s authors offer up helpful tips to keep intimacy alive without actually having intercourse. These steps should be taken while medical intervention is in place to heal the physical pain.

The first step to rejuvenate your relationship is to be open, up front and honest. You’ll find yourself and your partner shutting down if you can’t find a way to talk about the pain. For the man in your life, it can be difficult for him to see you in such debilitating pain. Being able to confront your fears and facing them head on and together can help you both to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Next, is learning to be creative. There are others ways to be romantically involved, to experience intimacy, and fulfill desires without actually having penetrative sex. “You just need to re-frame the way you think about sex and realize that sex includes many acts besides intercourse. Sex includes cuddling, mutual masturbation, tantric sex with a focus on breathing together, spooning and holding hands.” These actions will aid in restoring and fulfilling sexual needs.

As the problem of painful sex becomes more prevalent, doctors and researchers will continue their efforts at finding ways to eliminate the pain. Don’t forget that Women’s Intimate Solutions has various products to help lessen pain, discomfort and dryness. All of our products are 100% natural, with no harmful side effects to worry about.

(Source: The Good Men Project’s Website Feature on new book Healing Painful Sex: Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain By Deborah Coady, MD and Nancy Fish, MSW, MPH)


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Women’s Sexual Health & Female Rejunivation

Discussing sexual health, especially that of women, has been somewhat taboo over the years. An important topic of conversation, the more recent discussions and focus on this subject is long overdue. Although speaking about sex and sexual health is not always the easiest conversation to have, whether it is with your friends or even doctor, it is an essential topic about which to be well educated.

A recent study, conducted by Sexual Health Rankings™, reports “for the first time, a full picture of sexual health in the United States,” according to a press release from PR Newswire. This study “is the most comprehensive measure of Americans’ sexual health ever developed, and the first state-by-state comparison of overall sexual health.”

The idea behind Sexual Health Rankings™ is based on the definition of sexual health as the World Health Organization defines it. “It emphasizes wellness, and encompasses human rights, sexual expression and identity, and sexual pleasure.”

“Sexual health is an essential part of health—each individual person’s health, and the health of society as a whole,” says Sexual Health Rankings™ Director Martin Downs, MPH. “Sexual health relates to many different parts of the body, aspects of life, and areas of society, in ways that aren’t always obvious.”

Based on 26 indicators, the study, Sexual Health Rankings™ used available data to rank the states. Although there was very little information that people actually want to know about sexual health, especially the positive aspects.

The Top Five Sexually Healthy States
1. Vermont
2. Connecticut
3. New Hampshire
4. New Jersey
5. Massachusetts

For more information about the report, visit Sexual Health Rankings™ website.

As a women who has endured the hardships of being a breast cancer survivor, sexual health is something that is very important to me. Not only has ageing played a role in my sexual health, but the side effects of treatment have also had an effect. Fortunately, I have found herbal products that have helped lessen the negative effects. One of my favorite products is the Female Rejuvenation Formula.

This formula is to be taken internally and is meant to help rehydrate women’s mucosal tissues. This includes eyes, mouth, and entire digestive system from top to bottom, along with the tissues of the reproductive system.

How to Use: You should see improvement after 1-2 weeks of either ¼ tsp 2-5 times a day or a dropper full under the tongue in the morning.

Disclaimer: Always speak with a health care professional before taking or using any dietary, nutritional, or herbal product. This product has not been evaluated by the FDA and is not approved to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease.

Post by Helen Rollins Lord of Women’s Intimate Solutions

Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve: Relief for Painful Sex

Research shows that about one in four women suffer or have suffered from chronic vulvar pain at some point in their life. Known as vulvodynia, this condition is when a woman suffers from chronic vulvar pain without specific cause. Like many medical conditions, the location and severity of  varies with each individual. One of the more common symptoms attributed to this condition is burning in the vulva, although the levels of pain do vary from case to case. “One woman reported her pain felt like “acid being poured on my skin,” while another described it as “constant knife-like pain.” (Source: National Vulvodynia Association)

Soothing Salve For Vaginal Dryness

If you happen to be one of the many women who suffer from this ailment, this could and mostly likely causes very uncomfortable and painful sex. The side effects of this are countless, from simply being in pain and uncomfortable to a decrease in intimacy with your partner, this condition is towards the top of my, “Things I don’t want to experience” list. Thankfully, with more soothing products becoming available, there may be light at the end of the tunnel.  Although not formulated to address vulvodynia expressly, the herbs in one of the more popular products from Women’s Intimate Solutions, Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve, may ease some of the discomfort by healing damaged tissue.

Doctor recommended, this vaginal salve helps to keep you feeling moisturized. The salve also soothes the small tears that can sometimes occur during intercourse. To apply the salve, take a fingertip full and use it whenever you are feeling dry or uncomfortable.  Made from all natural products, Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve’s special formula contains no St John’s Wort, which is  perfect for those on antidepressants, birth control or those who are using Tamoxifin, Aromasin or other estrogen blockers that are contraindicated with St. John’s Wort.

Post by Helen Rollins Lord of Women’s Intimate Solutions

Womanly Changes: The Things Our Mother’s Don’t Tell Us

As a young woman, no one tells us what might happen when we get older. Now this statement is very broad, and it’s meant to be. From the wrinkles on our face, to the changes in our body that we cannot seem to stop, and even our outlook on the world, there is no way to predict what life will be like in our 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.

To be even more specific, nobody tells us as young women that we will most likely encounter a noticeable change in our vagina as we age. Unfortunately, this change is not always for the better. As we age, our vagina’s tissues naturally become drier and more fragile. Add in the big C (Cancer) and the treatment that goes along with it, and all of a sudden intimacy can become uncomfortable, painful and sometimes even unbearable.

VagDrynessOil_LRG Fortunately, there are products that have been developed to make the unbearable more bearable and hopefully pleasurable in time. Women’s Intimate Solutions has a Moisturizing Oil for Vaginal dryness is a healing oil that was formulated for dry, fragile or atrophied vaginal tissues. Made from all natural ingredients, the ingredients in our moisturizing oil include Olive oil, Calendula flowers, Plantain leaf, Comfrey root, Sea Buckthorn oil, and Clary Sage pure essential oil. Please keep in mind that this is not a lubricant for intercourse. Rather, we developed this oil to help heal and bring moisture back into your tissues, so you will not be hurt if/when, you do have intercourse.

Directions for Applying the Oil:

• Soak a Q-tip into the oil and gently insert it into yourself
• Swish the Q-tip around both inside and outside of your vaginal area. Be sure to do this gently, especially if you are atrophied.
• As you become more and more moist, stretch your vaginal opening with your fingers or a massager.

**You should notice a difference in around a week if not sooner. Please remember that each of us is different, so it may take more or less oil and time to help you.**

For more information on the other products Women’s Intimate Solutions carries, please visit our website.

How to use a personal lubricant

Owning a business can be interesting in so many ways I never considered.  The other Saturday night around 9:30, I got a call from a customer.  I was asleep (own my business… tired…) and suddenly was being asked how to use Sylk, a natural, water-based personal lubricant I sell.  I was stunned into silence and then realized that one of my customers needed help.  It had never occurred to me that people really don’t know how to put on a personal lubricant, so here goes –

First, make sure you use enough – it’s better to use too much than not enough. Play around with it before you need it so you know what it feels like.  If it’s in a tube, squirt it into the palm of your hand the same way you would with suntan oil, shaving cream or skin cream.  If it’s in a  jar, such as our oil-based Yoni Cream, use your fingers to scoop out the amount you want.  How much depends on your individual situation. If you are using it for masturbation: for women, use enough to cover the labia (the two “side flaps” leading into the vaginal canal) and the entrance to the vagina.  For men, use enough to cover the penis so the friction is comfortable.  If you are using it for intercourse, cover the man’s penis and the outside and entrance to the woman’s vagina.  It’s fun to make the application part of your foreplay.

If you are using a condom, use water based lubricants only – oil based lubricants might make the condom break.  Put the condom on unrolling it up the penis with your fingers – sort of like pulling on a sock. Starting at the tip of the condom-covered penis, spread it down all over the condom.  Make sure the condom is covered so there are not spots where friction can create discomfort. Make sure you use enough!

I hope this helps.  If you have never used a personal lubricant before, rest assured that you will be able to practice until you know exactly how much you need.

New formula for Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve

We’ve changed some of our formulas and WOW!  We think you will love the difference.  We’ve added sea buckthorn oil which helps skin build collagen and make that thinning skin plumper – don’t you love that?!  Come visit our site here.  And you can buy Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve here.  We hope you love as much as we do!

Menopause info for Men that helps for Women’s Cancer side effects

I thought this was a good intro for men that applies any time our estrogen levels drop!

Radio broadcast on vaginal dryness

Okay, another thing your doctor won’t tell you is that after you lose estrogen either because of tamoxifen or aromasin (or any of those drugs that shut down your estrogen) or because your breast cancer has happened after menopause, you will most likely experience vaginal dryness.  This is no joke.  No one talks about it!  So I am shouting as loud as I can about it…

I feel so strongly about this that I started my business because of it.  This radio broadcast has really good information and so I share it with you and hope that it provides you with some good hope.

Drink Plenty of Water

Drink plenty of water.  Your skin will be clearer, your plumbing will work more smoothly and your organs will say thank you!  Some of those treats you love may need some help getting through your system and water provides that help.

If you have had surgery, water will flush anesthesia out of your system and you will feel much better without that stuff floating around in you.

Lastly, drinking plenty of water really does help vaginal dryness.

That’s it for today!


Breast Cancer Awareness Month day by day information

October is breast cancer awareness month.  Being a survivor and thriving myself, I am thinking of others who may be fighting this scary disease and trusting that they have the love and support of others that I had and continue to have.  My support group is called “Breast Friends.” It is a wonderful group of more than 100 other thriving women (I am so proud of them) who are able to talk about and laugh at our various survivor issues, only one of which is what the lack of estrogen does to our bodies.  To be able to face life’s travails head on and then be able to see some humor in them is never easy, however it’s a really good coping skill to develop.

I have some information to share which might help you feel better in general.  As you can imagine I do quite a bit of research and have found a couple of sites which may give you other information.  Each day for the next month, I will post something I found useful.  I will tell you the subject so if you think it is too much information, you can skip it.

I wish you all good health and remind you that you don’t have to have more chemicals to have a satisfying intimate life.  I thought this was a great discussion.  It’s about 30 minutes but you can stop it part way through and go back to it when you have time to listen.