Suffering from Painful Sex Does Not Mean Intimacy is Dead

I know this topic is a little scary and unnerving, but let’s face it; painful sex has sadly become more common for the female population. Or, has it always been a problem and physicians are just now beginning to recognize this as a serious problem, urging more women to open up?

According to an article from The Good Men Project, researchers have found that 16 to 20 percent of women will experience sexual pain in their life. Although you may feel the desire to have sexual intercourse, the thought of piercing pain has you bottling up the urge. If the thought of penetration has you running to the bathroom, it’s time to do something about it and we’re here to help.

Simply put, painful sex is confusing and just not fair. Genital pain can be contributed to a number of conditions, and the onset of symptoms can appear at any time. Common activities such as exercising or sitting can become extremely painful. Some of these conditions that result from genital pain, include gastrointestinal or urological problems, vestibulodynia (vulvar pain) and clitorodynia (clitoral pain). What’s even scarier about sexual pain is that sometimes it can come from nowhere; developing “without a readily identifiable trigger.”

Authors of the new book Healing Painful Sex, Deborah Coady, MD and Nancy Fish, have taken a close look at this problem and assure suffering women that they shouldn’t feel ashamed, and that the pain is not “all in your head.”

While the medical field would like to classify this type of pain, during what is supposed to be a pleasurable experience, is the result of emotional and psychological issues. Coady and Fish don’t agree, concluding that “emotional and psychological problems are consequences of the pain.”

The book’s authors offer up helpful tips to keep intimacy alive without actually having intercourse. These steps should be taken while medical intervention is in place to heal the physical pain.

The first step to rejuvenate your relationship is to be open, up front and honest. You’ll find yourself and your partner shutting down if you can’t find a way to talk about the pain. For the man in your life, it can be difficult for him to see you in such debilitating pain. Being able to confront your fears and facing them head on and together can help you both to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Next, is learning to be creative. There are others ways to be romantically involved, to experience intimacy, and fulfill desires without actually having penetrative sex. “You just need to re-frame the way you think about sex and realize that sex includes many acts besides intercourse. Sex includes cuddling, mutual masturbation, tantric sex with a focus on breathing together, spooning and holding hands.” These actions will aid in restoring and fulfilling sexual needs.

As the problem of painful sex becomes more prevalent, doctors and researchers will continue their efforts at finding ways to eliminate the pain. Don’t forget that Women’s Intimate Solutions has various products to help lessen pain, discomfort and dryness. All of our products are 100% natural, with no harmful side effects to worry about.

(Source: The Good Men Project’s Website Feature on new book Healing Painful Sex: Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain By Deborah Coady, MD and Nancy Fish, MSW, MPH)


Post by Helen Rollins Lord of Women’s Intimate Solutions


Women suffering from decreased libidos: the why and what to do about it

An increasing number of women are coming forth and reaching out for help about decreasing libido struggles. In past years, this was a hush-hush kind of topic. Now, women are frustrated and confused as to why this is happening to their bodies.

Studies have been conducted to attempt to address the reasons for decreased libidos. While researchers have had no luck with a diagnosis, they have determined that the “causes can range from the biological to the psychological and even social.”

One such study took a look at stresses of everyday life, which include working, taking care of the family and household and worrying about finances. According to General Practitioner Dr. Sarah Brewer, “If you’re stressed, you produce the hormone cortisol, which in turn leads to production of another hormone called prolactin, the ‘celibacy hormone’.”

Okay, that makes sense, but what about women who live normal, carefree lives? Why has their sex drive diminished? Another study looked at the low levels of the hormone testosterone found in women. Testosterone is not just a hormone found in men, although that is a common misconception, and it can help a woman’s body to regulate energy, mood and libido.

Testosterone naturally increases in a woman’s body during intercourse. If the woman is experiencing a low sex drive, it can be very hard to replenish the hormone, bringing the libido back to life. In addition, when women begin to age, a decrease in hormone levels is part of the process. Doctors have attempted to create testosterone replacement patches, but have had little or no success, as the side effects just add to the overall problem.

Women at any age can be affected by decreased libidos and some medications are raising red flags. Certain contraceptive pills, anti-depressants and painkillers are just a few types of medications that can have a negative effect on the libido.

It is also no surprise that menopause aka “the change” is a leading factor of having little or no desire for intimacy. Menopause decreases the body’s ability of producing enough estrogen and testosterone. Menopause can also cause vaginal tissue to dry, making intercourse very painful.

Professor John Studd, who is also a gynecologist that specializes in treating women with libido problems, believes that “lack of libido can be treated, but there is still a common perception that this is not a serious issue – and until more people start to take it seriously, women will continue to suffer.”

More women are now doing their own research on this topic. They have found natural remedies to overcome the heavy burden of weakened intercourse desire. This is where the work of Women’s Intimate Solutions comes in.

Using all nautical lubricants not only helps to moisturize and heal dried, painful vaginal tissue, it can also help to restore your body’s ability to respond to stimulation. Intimacy is a very normal, healthy part of a woman’s life. We are here to help you take back your body so that you can once again feel desirable and have that urge for intimate connection. Our product pages offer an array of lubricants and oils, providing a solution for you.

(Source: Mail Online)

Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve: Relief for Painful Sex

Research shows that about one in four women suffer or have suffered from chronic vulvar pain at some point in their life. Known as vulvodynia, this condition is when a woman suffers from chronic vulvar pain without specific cause. Like many medical conditions, the location and severity of  varies with each individual. One of the more common symptoms attributed to this condition is burning in the vulva, although the levels of pain do vary from case to case. “One woman reported her pain felt like “acid being poured on my skin,” while another described it as “constant knife-like pain.” (Source: National Vulvodynia Association)

Soothing Salve For Vaginal Dryness

If you happen to be one of the many women who suffer from this ailment, this could and mostly likely causes very uncomfortable and painful sex. The side effects of this are countless, from simply being in pain and uncomfortable to a decrease in intimacy with your partner, this condition is towards the top of my, “Things I don’t want to experience” list. Thankfully, with more soothing products becoming available, there may be light at the end of the tunnel.  Although not formulated to address vulvodynia expressly, the herbs in one of the more popular products from Women’s Intimate Solutions, Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve, may ease some of the discomfort by healing damaged tissue.

Doctor recommended, this vaginal salve helps to keep you feeling moisturized. The salve also soothes the small tears that can sometimes occur during intercourse. To apply the salve, take a fingertip full and use it whenever you are feeling dry or uncomfortable.  Made from all natural products, Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve’s special formula contains no St John’s Wort, which is  perfect for those on antidepressants, birth control or those who are using Tamoxifin, Aromasin or other estrogen blockers that are contraindicated with St. John’s Wort.

Post by Helen Rollins Lord of Women’s Intimate Solutions

How to use a personal lubricant

Owning a business can be interesting in so many ways I never considered.  The other Saturday night around 9:30, I got a call from a customer.  I was asleep (own my business… tired…) and suddenly was being asked how to use Sylk, a natural, water-based personal lubricant I sell.  I was stunned into silence and then realized that one of my customers needed help.  It had never occurred to me that people really don’t know how to put on a personal lubricant, so here goes –

First, make sure you use enough – it’s better to use too much than not enough. Play around with it before you need it so you know what it feels like.  If it’s in a tube, squirt it into the palm of your hand the same way you would with suntan oil, shaving cream or skin cream.  If it’s in a  jar, such as our oil-based Yoni Cream, use your fingers to scoop out the amount you want.  How much depends on your individual situation. If you are using it for masturbation: for women, use enough to cover the labia (the two “side flaps” leading into the vaginal canal) and the entrance to the vagina.  For men, use enough to cover the penis so the friction is comfortable.  If you are using it for intercourse, cover the man’s penis and the outside and entrance to the woman’s vagina.  It’s fun to make the application part of your foreplay.

If you are using a condom, use water based lubricants only – oil based lubricants might make the condom break.  Put the condom on unrolling it up the penis with your fingers – sort of like pulling on a sock. Starting at the tip of the condom-covered penis, spread it down all over the condom.  Make sure the condom is covered so there are not spots where friction can create discomfort. Make sure you use enough!

I hope this helps.  If you have never used a personal lubricant before, rest assured that you will be able to practice until you know exactly how much you need.

New formula for Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve

We’ve changed some of our formulas and WOW!  We think you will love the difference.  We’ve added sea buckthorn oil which helps skin build collagen and make that thinning skin plumper – don’t you love that?!  Come visit our site here.  And you can buy Rebecca’s Soothing Vaginal Salve here.  We hope you love as much as we do!

Radio broadcast on vaginal dryness

Okay, another thing your doctor won’t tell you is that after you lose estrogen either because of tamoxifen or aromasin (or any of those drugs that shut down your estrogen) or because your breast cancer has happened after menopause, you will most likely experience vaginal dryness.  This is no joke.  No one talks about it!  So I am shouting as loud as I can about it…

I feel so strongly about this that I started my business because of it.  This radio broadcast has really good information and so I share it with you and hope that it provides you with some good hope.

Breast Cancer Awareness Month day by day information

October is breast cancer awareness month.  Being a survivor and thriving myself, I am thinking of others who may be fighting this scary disease and trusting that they have the love and support of others that I had and continue to have.  My support group is called “Breast Friends.” It is a wonderful group of more than 100 other thriving women (I am so proud of them) who are able to talk about and laugh at our various survivor issues, only one of which is what the lack of estrogen does to our bodies.  To be able to face life’s travails head on and then be able to see some humor in them is never easy, however it’s a really good coping skill to develop.

I have some information to share which might help you feel better in general.  As you can imagine I do quite a bit of research and have found a couple of sites which may give you other information.  Each day for the next month, I will post something I found useful.  I will tell you the subject so if you think it is too much information, you can skip it.

I wish you all good health and remind you that you don’t have to have more chemicals to have a satisfying intimate life.  I thought this was a great discussion.  It’s about 30 minutes but you can stop it part way through and go back to it when you have time to listen.

Survey!!! Revealing Vaginal Effects at Mid-life

Oh my gosh! You know I promise information and here it is – big time. Can I tell you how excited I am that a big pharmaceutical company like Wyeth has done and published this research? Thrilled!!! I hope you can take a little time to read through this and be comforted, mentally at least, by the information. Go to Reveal survey

The pharmaceutical’s approach to solving our vaginal dryness problems may not be our first choice, but it is for some women and the more information that is out there proving to women that it is okay to talk about their sexual health the better, I say.

For those of us who aren’t interested in the methodology of the survey, just skip to page 9 for the summary and then read what you like of the rest. I found it really interesting and hope that you do also.

Come visit Women’s Intimate Solutions when you are looking for all natural help in managing your vaginal dryness.

Oh, by the way, if your doctor or nurse practitioner can’t talk to you about this easily – find one who can, they are there!

Great New Link for Menopause Information

The North American Menopause Society (NAMS) is a medical society and great source on menopause info and with that name, they should be! 🙂 They have put together a website for the layperson, so I am sharing it and hope you will find it informative and useful. Sexual Health & Menopause Online Resource

Another wonderful source of information on vaginal dryness is the Vaginismus Awareness Network site. If all this information gives you new courage, come visit us at Women’s Intimate Solutions to find organic herbal oil and lubricants for managing and soothing vaginal dryness.

Managing Vaginal Dryness

Often, vaginal dryness does not just “go away” as we wish it would.  If you no longer have estrogen in your body such as happens with menopause, hysterectomy or breast cancer, you will need to manage it by making a bit of  effort to maintain the health of your vaginal tissue.  There are several chemical ways to do this, however I offer all natural herbal ways instead.  Sometimes this choice is your preference; sometimes, as with breast cancer, estrogen is just plain dangerous as it may feed cancer cells.  Please visit the “How to Use” page at Women’s Intimate Solutions for a lot more information.  Be well and be a happy lover.